A friend in need is friend indeed- a test handed down the ages for man to test if the person you trust is a true friend or not. I agree that its a good way to judge a man but i wouldn’t agree if it is to be projected as the only test or the finest test. I would contest in this post that it tests a person partially and does not take into account the needs of a man when he is happy.
Lets first see why it is said that a friend in need is a friend indeed. When a man is in need then he might be in financial need or an emotional need or physical need or a in any combination of the above mentioned three. Now a financial need can be satisfied monetarily, emotional need by just being there and lending support and the physical need by just extending a hand at the right moment. Anyone who is there at that hour is truly a friend but as it goes that there is light at the end of a dark tunnel. A man’s suffering, unless willed otherwise by god, does not remain forever.
Lets now analyse the same person who was once in need but is now well off, with everything going his way. At this juncture when he is happy, he needs someone to share his joy. Now if at this point that saviour friend gets jealous, cynical, jeering or at the worst despite being in the know of things decides to ignore you, then that person is at the same footing as a person who betrays when one is in need. People might say that when one is happy one can share joy with anyone but i would like to counter it by saying that when we don’t rush to every person we know when in need then why should the case be different when the tide turns? To be winning and not being able to share the happiness of winning is worse than not winning at all.
So in my eyes a true friend is a person who is truly dedicated to you. For him/her in an old fashioned way your pain is his/her’s pain and your happiness is his/her’s happiness. There’s no point in running behind people who can justify either of the roles as sooner or later they would inflict an equal amount of pain. And for everyone who has that sort of friend but is being sidelined in ignorance, to them i would suggest to wake up and take notice as such people are real gems.
3 comments:
just stumbled onto your blog while googling my name :-D
Cheers
-Sid
hey sid..
its nice..
and i totally agree with you!!
-rishita
Hold on mate... i got the point but there is a technical issue that needs to be brought to notice. You basically equated a friend being "in need" to being unhappy physically, emotionally or financially.
But what can be pointed out too is that if you tend to value friends being around in times of happiness, then it can be said that you are still "in need" of friends (or maybe in need of certain gestures or emotions or actions from them) during those times
So although i get everything you said about true friends being there in times of happiness too, the line "A friend 'in need' is a friend indeed" would still hold true considering all cases!
PS: get rid of this annoying word verification thing while writing comments
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